I recently watched two famous experts on the functioning of the mind in conversation. One is developing a comprehensive theory of relationships based on data we have from behavioral biology. The other listens carefully. One knows what the other is able to understand without the gravy train and lots of words. It's the bit that's billable. Human nature. Sooner or later everyone is faced with the effects and consequences of human nature. Here Robert Sapolsky, American neuroendocrinologist, professor of biology, neuroscience, and neurosurgery at Stanford University, researcher and author, begins to describe to Jordan Peterson, Canadian psychology professor, clinical psychologist, YouTuber and author of three books, a relationship game like a behavioral game. No one other than the two of them knows what's really going on between them, no one else witnesses the reality of the relationship between the two. You can, Sapolsky says, start a game with cooperation or you can stab the other person. It proves that if the rounds continue you will eventually stab each other, so the perfectly reasonable one either stabs the other directly or refuses to play games with the other...
The common man cannot maintain cooperation without deception, ramming or dependence. At best we can say that one teaches the other his weaknesses. But when all the lessons are completed for one, what remains?
Look for it, study it, find it!
The thesis here is that there is no real cooperation until both have completed the lessons of self-knowledge. Especially, after those around them have taken all their lessons and they themselves survive any 'interception'. After the illusions and delusions that manifest in love are dispelled.
Why can't love manifest before? Except excitement and disappointment. Addiction and compulsion. Because love is the self-revolution of self-knowledge. The quantum leap of human evolution. Via dolorosa, crucifixion and resurrection.
